The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence Hardcover - 2009
by Rachel Simmons
Bestselling author of Odd Girl Out, Rachel Simmons exposes themyth of the Good Girl, freeing girls from its impossible standards andencouraging them to embrace their real selves
In The Curse of the Good Girl, bestselling authorRachel Simmons argues that in lionizing the Good Girl weare teaching girls to embrace a version of selfhood that sharplycurtails their power and potential. Unerringly nice, polite,modest, and selfless, the Good Girl is a paradigm so narrowlydefined that it's unachievable. When girls inevitably fail tolive up-experiencing conflicts with peers, making mistakesin the classroom or on the playing field-they are paralyzedby self-criticism, stunting the growth of vital skills and habits.Simmons traces the poisonous impact of Good Girl pressure ondevelopment and provides a strategy to reverse the tide. At onceexpository and prescriptive, The Curse of the Good Girl is a callto arms from a new front in female empowerment.
Looking to the stories shared by the women andgirls who attend her workshops, Simmons shows that GoodGirl pressure from parents, teachers, coaches, media, and peerserects a psychological glass ceiling that begins to enforce itsconfines in girlhood and extends across the female lifespan. Thecurse of the Good Girl erodes girls' ability to know, express,and manage a complete range of feelings. It expects girls tobe selfless, limiting the expression of their needs. It requiresmodesty, depriving the permission to articulate their strengthsand goals. It diminishes assertive body language, quietingvoices and weakening handshakes. It touches all areas of girls'lives and follows many into adulthood, limiting their personaland professional potential.
Since the popularization of the Ophelia phenomenon,we have lamented the loss of self-esteem in adolescentgirls, recognizing that while the doors of opportunity are opento twenty-first-century American girls, many lack the confidenceto walk through them. In The Curse of the Good Girl,Simmons provides a catalog of tangible lessons in bolsteringthe self and silencing the curse of the Good Girl. At the core ofSimmons's radical argument is her belief that the most criticalfreedom we can win for our daughters is the liberty not only tolisten to their inner voice but also to act on it.
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In The Curse of the Good Girl, bestselling author Rachel Simmons argues that in lionizing the Good Girl we are teaching girls to embrace a version of selfhood that sharply curtails their power and potential. Unerringly nice, polite, modest, and selfless, the Good Girl is a paradigm so narrowly defined that it's unachievable. When girls inevitably fail to live up- experiencing conflicts with peers, making mistakes in the classroom or on the playing field-they are paralyzed by self-criticism, stunting the growth of vital skills and habits. Simmons traces the poisonous impact of Good Girl pressure on development and provides a strategy to reverse the tide. At once expository and prescriptive, The Curse of the Good Girl is a call to arms from a new front in female empowerment.
Looking to the stories shared by the women and girls who attend her workshops, Simmons shows that Good Girl pressure from parents, teachers, coaches, media, and peers erects a psychological glass ceiling that begins to enforce its confines in girlhood and extends across the female lifespan. The curse of the Good Girl erodes girls' ability to know, express, and manage a complete range of feelings. It expects girls to be selfless, limiting the expression of their needs. It requires modesty, depriving the permission to articulate their strengths and goals. It diminishes assertive body language, quieting voices and weakening handshakes. It touches all areas of girls' lives and follows many into adulthood, limiting their personal and professional potential.
Since the popularization of the Ophelia phenomenon, we have lamented the loss of self-esteem in adolescent girls, recognizing that while the doors of opportunity are open to twenty-first-century American girls, many lack the confidence to walk through them. In The Curse of the Good Girl, Simmons provides a catalog of tangible lessons in bolstering the self and silencing the curse of the Good Girl. At the core of Simmons's radical argument is her belief that the most critical freedom we can win for our daughters is the liberty not only to listen to their inner voice but also to act on it.
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- Title The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence
- Author Rachel Simmons
- Binding Hardcover
- Edition First Printing
- Pages 278
- Volumes 1
- Language ENG
- Publisher Penguin Press, NY
- Date 2009-08-25
- Illustrated Yes
- ISBN 9781594202186 / 1594202184
- Weight 1.11 lbs (0.50 kg)
- Dimensions 9.4 x 6.46 x 0.98 in (23.88 x 16.41 x 2.49 cm)
- Ages 18 to UP years
- Grade levels 13 - UP
- Library of Congress subjects Girls - Conduct of life, Girls - Psychology
- Library of Congress Catalog Number 2009003566
- Dewey Decimal Code 155.433
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