New York, NY: Random House Inc, 2001. 1st Stated Ed 2nd Pr. Hardbound. 8vo. 5 Pgs.. Nr Fine. I Only Say This Because I Love You by Deborah Tannen. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY, 2001. 1st Stated Edition 2nd Printing. Hardbound. No DJ. Size 8vo (up to 9-1/2'' tall). Condition: Nr Fine. 336 Pgs. ISBN 0679456015. LCCN 00-068851. The author offers a linguistic analysis of relationship dynamics. In this text, she examines the ways that families, nuclear or otherwise, verbally interact, and she extracts the messages from the metamessages that family members send to one another. She points out patterns in everyday communication and offers some tips to get families talking to one another. Description text copyright 2006 BooksForComfort. Item ID 11007.

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Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages -- unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom.This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

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Bookseller: Comfort Kraft (US)
Bookseller's Inventory #: 11007
Title: I Only Say This Because I Love You
Author: Tannen, Deborah
Format/Binding: Hardbound. 8vo. 5 Pgs.
Book Condition: Used - Nr Fine
Quantity Available: 1
Edition: 1st Stated Ed 2nd Pr
Binding: Hardcover
ISBN 10: 0679456015
ISBN 13: 9780679456018
Publisher: Random House Inc
Place of Publication: New York, NY
Date Published: 2001
Keywords: Parenting, Childcare, Communication, Family

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